Manga actually does not always accurately depict real life.
You also have no understanding of BDSM. Sure, it's kinky, but consent is at the foundation of it. It's pretty harsh to group it with rape and pedophilia, no?
I'm frustrated by how you seem to consider behavior and personality to be almost inseparable from gender. How a person acts has little to do with their gender, and much much more to do with societal expectations of that gender.
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