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After the sudden death of his wife and child, John Harding spirals into despair. Deprived of his motivation to live, his attempt at suicide is unexpectedly interrupted by the arrival of a friend who wants him to coach the town's Little League team. Can John restore meaning to his life?

 

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if good comes to me its from you(God), and if some trouble comes to me its from you,(God)

nothing bad ever comes from god, that's one of the worst things i ever hear.
 
 
that list you made, let me pick it apart for you:
I'm listing them for positive note for whatever toxic situation you me in,  we tried and tried and tried and tried and tried and tried and not giving up 
 
Be in a healthier environment...
Help someone; especially someone in your situation.(sometimes things happened and opened greater opportunities when you think that there's no way I could do that )(dont think that it's hopeless)
Spend a day doing good deeds -> even a simple thing as a smile is a charity
people who are too anxious to even leave their house, won't really find this doable.(you dont have to go out to do deeds, think that even the tiniest thing that is a help to others is consider as good deeds, eg if someone asking someone to help eg teach how to use quote tag ... help him or her out...
others wish for the end of the world.
saving a kitten or puppy may be an alternative, but the responsibility could be too much for someone who isn't even able to take care of themselves.
for those who are able to do it, this may work. but some people have problems with always caring for others before themselves, these people will only be harmed by this piece of advice.
you could reformulate it to "if you want to help others, make time in your schedule for it. but remember to make time for yourself as well".
 Smile (you dont have to force a smile, smile in front of mirror to give you motivation , smile for yourself
no. absolutely not.
if you are happy, smile. if you are angry, tell people. if you are sad, cry.
but never smile unless you have reason to. a reason from within. or upon order from your boss, that's also an ok reason to smile.
i don't want to se people in pain smile just because someone said that everything will get better if they just smile.
what does this do to a person?
they'll never get any help before it's too late.
that's the result you'll get.
fake smiles have no worth. don't give them unless it's for money.
 
Journal one good thing about yourself everyday. Did you do a good deed? Did some good fortune come your way?
this one actually makes sense.
but try to make it about what made you happy today. who showed or said that they care for you.
the feeling of gratefulness is a very big factor in happiness.
if you have reason to feel grateful for something, that is proof that someone cared enough to give you that reason.
you doing a good deed doesn't really prove your worth, and in the end, you may even suffer great disappointment when nobody ever expresses any gratefulness for your own good deeds.
so focus on the proof that you matter to others. all the things that make you want to give something in return, either to them, or someone else whom you may be able to help.
 Volunteer at a place or charity place.
yes.
if you can, do it. particularly if you're jobless.
volunteer work always looks good on your resume, it's proof that you have a will to work. that you aren't jobless because you're too picky or lazy.
you'll also meet people who are really grateful for your efforts, because this is something you do because you want to, and not just for the money.
a great boost to anyone's worn down self esteem.
 See what are the responsibilities you really want to take on & those things that others can do, you do not need to over burden yourself with— prioritize, and don’t let other things bother you.
Do not let yourself become over stressed, and if you do take a break.
Know yourself and your body’s limits.
Create a schedule.
Exercise.
Ask for help.
Spend time looking at & contemplating nature.
these are all sound advice.
for some of these, it may be good to ask a therapist for help.
an alternative to looking at nature, is to do something you can enjoy in solitude. cooking, knitting, sculpting, walking around the block if there is no nature nearby, listening to or playing music.....
the best help comes when your mind is at piece because of the activity, thus allowing you to contemplate all kinds of things. and if the things are stressful events happening in your life, the activity will keep the stress away while you sort things out in your mind.

and thank you for elaborating them. for sharing your inputs as well.

 

ppl who have done this, do you miss them?
did there existence mean anything to you
would you have them back 
or are you more happy without them?
that is all.

Thank you for initiating this platform for us to discuss.


Something someone somewhere out there cares for you but it just happened that "that" hasn't cross path with you yet.

Everything is in a flux, people in health will soon face illness, people in illness will soon have relief. Those that are happy today will soon undergo some sadness, and those that are sad will have happiness. Your situation will not be the same forever, if you are not in control today, there will come a time where it is.


All I ask is you is to, try this… pray to God, even if you don’t believe in God, pray to Him, talk to Him. Tell God that you know He is in control. Cry to him. Do this on blind faith and say, “All admiration belongs to you, if good comes to me its from you, and if some trouble comes to me its from you, I submit to you, and this situation to you.” Say this even if you do not believe in God.


And Live one day at a time.
“There is only one day separating me and the Kings. As for the yesterday, their taste of it has vanished, and both they and I equally fear what tomorrow will bring. Thus, there is only today. What will today bring?”


Suggestions:
Be in a healthier environment.
Help someone; especially someone in your situation.
Spend a day doing good deeds
Smile
Journal one good thing about yourself everyday. Did you do a good deed? Did some good fortune come your way?
Volunteer at a place or charity place.
See what are the responsibilities you really want to take on & those things that others can do, you do not need to over burden yourself with— prioritize, and don’t let other things bother you.
Do not let yourself become over stressed, and if you do take a break.
Know yourself and your body’s limits.
Create a schedule.
Exercise.
Ask for help.
Spend time looking at & contemplating nature.